How To Make A Relationship Stronger?

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By hillymillydee

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How to make a relationship stronger can be challenging to some because of the many pressures we face every day. But it is necessary if we desire that our relationship will last for long.

When we fell in love the first time we met our partner, we dreamed dreams that seem to be unending, but as time goes by, the thrill and excitement of our first emotions slowly fade away. Our relationship became just a routine that we feel we should love each other because we are oblige to do so.

Sometimes we can reason, our love is strong enough and we don’t need to refresh it. Or we may say, we’ve been together for such a long time and it is normal if we are not as warm as the first time we met. But isn’t it beautiful if we find more ways to enjoy the atmosphere of our love and relationship? Isn’t it wonderful to take time building it and learn how to make a relationship stronger?

How to make a relationship stronger involves knowing the difference of falling in love and staying inlove?

It is easy to fall in love but staying in love requires your determination to keep the love burning.

Yes there is more to do than just falling in love. Falling in love remains a short time. Staying in love on the other hand is a long term project and it demands willingness and sincerity to pursue it.

There are many qualities we can develop on how to make a relationship stronger, perhaps you had read a thousand times about the importance of love, respect, good communication, kindness, forgiveness, understanding, consideration and so on and so forth so I would like to deal more on some practical ways on how to make a relationship stronger.

Why is relationship liken to a bottle with oil and vinegar?

The answer can be as simple as this: “Shake your relationship everyday”

Let’s look at this illustration: Have you ever tried mixing vinegar and oil in a bottle? If so then you know what I mean. If you put vinegar and oil in a bottle, you notice they cannot be mix together until the bottle is shaken. And once you stop shaking it, they will again separate, the vinegar sinks down and the oil comes up.

Relationship or marriage is like the bottle that holds the oil and vinegar together. The oil can be the man and the vinegar, the woman. The fact that they always split apart even they are inside the bottle illustrates that man and woman are totally different from each other. They can be dwelling in one roof but still can be far apart. They maybe are compatible in many ways but they are not in other things. Why?

Aside from their physical structure, how about their backgrounds, their likes and dislikes, their hobbies and the things they used to do when they were not yet together? There is a tendency that each one will become fully occupied with the things they loved to do when they were alone. And that's why we say" Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus."

So just as you need to shake the bottle to mix the vinegar and oil together, you need to shake your relationship to mix your lives together every day. How? It all depends how you know it is to be shaken. Think of things you can do to make both of you be reminded about the reason why you are together.

Below are some practical ways you might appreciate that can shake your lives and help you know how to make a relationship stronger:

  • Express your love in words every day. Saying “I love you”can never be out of date or old fashion, it is still the best way to assure the warmness of your love. No one else can say it for you. It is a simple thing but it can be a big thing to help build up your relationship.

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  • Intimacy in is needed. Your words maybe loud enough but warm touches can make the heart big. Hugs and kisses can add power to your words as they keep the fire of love burning between you. For example; just holding each other’s hand gives the feeling of security. Yes intimacy is essential and powerful to mix two lives together.
  • Spend quality time together by dating and doing other sort of recreation
  • Sharing what you’ve got and talking about your experiences
  • Helping each other to carry loads or problems that come up

  • Find ways to enjoy each other’s company
  • Giving gifts and surprises can awaken the heart if it happens to be sleeping, this will remind the recipient that he is loved.
  • Celebrating your anniversary is another way to rekindle the warmth of your first love and renewing your vows in marriage
  • Add spice and humor to your relationship whatever suits your circumstance.
  • Prioritize your partner rather than your friends or relative

The above are just some tips on how to make a relationship stronger. If you add them to what you already know, it can prevent your love from cooling off and you can easily solve relationship problems that may come along and as you continue discovering more ways on how to make a relationship stronger.

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hillymillydee Hub Author 2 months ago

Wanks,

Yes love is never easy, we need to work and shake it everyday.

Thanks for your comment

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hillymillydee Hub Author 2 months ago

Thanks lisa,

Sorry for the delay of my reply

I appreciate your comment

Lisa 3 months ago

This hub was really refreshing. As you rightly mentioned, its so important for both parties to make an effort to keep the love burning. Especially, partners who have been together for many years.

I read many hubs on this subject recently hilly, and this is by far the most enjoyable article I've read in a while. Big thumbs up from me :)

Lisa Harris ~ http://truthsaboutmen.info

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hillymillydee Hub Author 3 months ago

That's right Wanks,

We need to work on it everyday.

Thanks for your visit and leaving a line of thought

Wanks 3 months ago

Lov is never easy and distance dosnt make it any easier.

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hillymillydee Hub Author 3 months ago

Infobrowser,

Thanks for leaving your additional thought

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Infobrowser Level 2 Commenter 3 months ago

There are a lot of things that men and women can learn from each other. What makes us the same and what makes us different? Our differences are sometimes our key attractions or intrigues. Whereas our similarities allow us to feel understood and satisfied with who we have.

I believe that both honesty and understanding are at the heart of any good relationship.

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hillymillydee Hub Author 3 months ago

Thanks Lady_E,

Yes and many relationship today don't last because as you said others jump to a relationship because of looks it is not based on love.

Thanks for leaving your thoughts, I appreciate a lot to be visited by you

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Lady_E Level 7 Commenter 3 months ago

This is so beautiful to read and so much needed. Relationships don't seem to last long these days and also a lot of people jump into a relationship based on just "looks".

Yes... we should shake up our relationship everyday.

Great Hub. Rated Up.

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